If you are those people who enjoy asking "Eyh, no need study ah you? " Instead of slapping you on the face and giving you a getoutofmyfaceorIkillyou face, I suggest this post is completely relevant. Especially it is during exam.
There are many things I do not understand about guys but particularly I do not understand why do guys ALWAYS break up with their girlfriends on days where it so closed to exams or days where exams are going on. I don't get it, how come they didn't realise that the females are more often than not very emotional? -.- Okay, lets just take it as we girls are considered 'muka sial' (Unlucky/face problem).
Girls, I totally understand how you are feeling if you're one of them. Being trashed on the sidewalk and carrying all the hurt and broken-ness inside you. You feel as if you're the person who is at fault for feeling this way and for whatever that has happened. You will try to patch things up with him but ends up making it worst. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you are completely not at fault but I do not blame you as well because feelings always gets in the way we behave because we're emotionally orientated. I am also not saying that he is completely fault free because his actions affects you very much because you care very much about him. I get it. I totally understand your pain and hurt. The memories tend to make you hurt even more because each memory with him will tear out your heart. It feels like someone just used a knife and dug out your heart, stepped on it and walked away.
If you're that person, the first thing you should do is walk away. LEAVE RIGHT NOW and give a good amount of space between each other. If you have already left, good for you now space out and don't go any closer. I understand that the gesture of calling or texting him has been a habit but you MUST leave and stop that for now. Don't try to continue trying to fix things that are already broken. If you do it will break you even more. It is like playing a shooting game. You have to leave to recover in order to fight the enemy. If you continue fighting, you will be defeated. Of course, that feeling is the hardest to overcome because you will tend to miss him so much but space is the best medicine to cure a broken and an unsure heart.
Second, TAKE TIME TO THINK. Don't rush back to him right away just because you cannot stand the wait. You have to understand, the time you take to think is the time you recover from all the hurtful words he dumped on you. Do not make the move, let him do it. If he wants to be in your life, he will make an extra effort to be in it. I am not kidding. During this time you have to BUCK UP and live the life you are supposed to. I understand you will feel broken and weak but no one wants to be with someone who has no confidence and is constantly crying over spilt milk. He has already said what he wants to say, broke what he wants to break so now, its your turn to learn to continue with what your priorities were. To love is not to throw yourself into the pit of fire and burn yourself into pieces. To love is also not to constantly converge yourself into depression. That is NOT love. To love is to show respect to yourself. Try to recall the days before you got together with him. Try to recall the confidence and the respect you had for yourself.
Forth, OPEN YOUR EYES. I always say this, there are over 7 billion people in the world. Each of different colour,size and preference. Do not just look at the past and fill yourself with the memories of the past. MAKE NEW ONES! I am not talking about getting into a new relationship. You can do that when you are ready to go into one. No pressure. :) I am talking about putting yourself into making more friends. I don't think you realise, when you are in a relationship you do not make as many friends because you tend to worry about those nonsensical jealousy that happens between the both of you. I think you understand what I am talking about.. :)
The last one, MOVE ON. I understand that at the end of the day, if you were given a second chance to be with him again, you would but this is one small but big question to ponder about. Will this ever happen again? Lets put it in a more direct way, Will he ever trash me in the side walk and hurt me this way again? You have gone passed the whole journey of surviving without him, do you really want to put yourself in the situation where you have to go through all these once again? Don't you think its the right time to move on? :)
I wished if back then someone had actually told me that instead of the "Aiyaa, cry for what? No use wan la" or " I told you so, you didn't listen " , my life would have been much easier. But again, if it wasn't that I have gone through it myself, seen how immature I was and also made so many unnecessary mistakes to rip myself apart, I would not have been writing this today and sharing with you the guide to survive this journey. :) I am kind of glad and also not so glad. :P
Anyways, trust me, it will get better. :)
Love,
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There are many things I do not understand about guys but particularly I do not understand why do guys ALWAYS break up with their girlfriends on days where it so closed to exams or days where exams are going on. I don't get it, how come they didn't realise that the females are more often than not very emotional? -.- Okay, lets just take it as we girls are considered 'muka sial' (Unlucky/face problem).
Girls, I totally understand how you are feeling if you're one of them. Being trashed on the sidewalk and carrying all the hurt and broken-ness inside you. You feel as if you're the person who is at fault for feeling this way and for whatever that has happened. You will try to patch things up with him but ends up making it worst. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you are completely not at fault but I do not blame you as well because feelings always gets in the way we behave because we're emotionally orientated. I am also not saying that he is completely fault free because his actions affects you very much because you care very much about him. I get it. I totally understand your pain and hurt. The memories tend to make you hurt even more because each memory with him will tear out your heart. It feels like someone just used a knife and dug out your heart, stepped on it and walked away.
If you're that person, the first thing you should do is walk away. LEAVE RIGHT NOW and give a good amount of space between each other. If you have already left, good for you now space out and don't go any closer. I understand that the gesture of calling or texting him has been a habit but you MUST leave and stop that for now. Don't try to continue trying to fix things that are already broken. If you do it will break you even more. It is like playing a shooting game. You have to leave to recover in order to fight the enemy. If you continue fighting, you will be defeated. Of course, that feeling is the hardest to overcome because you will tend to miss him so much but space is the best medicine to cure a broken and an unsure heart.
Second, TAKE TIME TO THINK. Don't rush back to him right away just because you cannot stand the wait. You have to understand, the time you take to think is the time you recover from all the hurtful words he dumped on you. Do not make the move, let him do it. If he wants to be in your life, he will make an extra effort to be in it. I am not kidding. During this time you have to BUCK UP and live the life you are supposed to. I understand you will feel broken and weak but no one wants to be with someone who has no confidence and is constantly crying over spilt milk. He has already said what he wants to say, broke what he wants to break so now, its your turn to learn to continue with what your priorities were. To love is not to throw yourself into the pit of fire and burn yourself into pieces. To love is also not to constantly converge yourself into depression. That is NOT love. To love is to show respect to yourself. Try to recall the days before you got together with him. Try to recall the confidence and the respect you had for yourself.
Forth, OPEN YOUR EYES. I always say this, there are over 7 billion people in the world. Each of different colour,size and preference. Do not just look at the past and fill yourself with the memories of the past. MAKE NEW ONES! I am not talking about getting into a new relationship. You can do that when you are ready to go into one. No pressure. :) I am talking about putting yourself into making more friends. I don't think you realise, when you are in a relationship you do not make as many friends because you tend to worry about those nonsensical jealousy that happens between the both of you. I think you understand what I am talking about.. :)
The last one, MOVE ON. I understand that at the end of the day, if you were given a second chance to be with him again, you would but this is one small but big question to ponder about. Will this ever happen again? Lets put it in a more direct way, Will he ever trash me in the side walk and hurt me this way again? You have gone passed the whole journey of surviving without him, do you really want to put yourself in the situation where you have to go through all these once again? Don't you think its the right time to move on? :)
I wished if back then someone had actually told me that instead of the "Aiyaa, cry for what? No use wan la" or " I told you so, you didn't listen " , my life would have been much easier. But again, if it wasn't that I have gone through it myself, seen how immature I was and also made so many unnecessary mistakes to rip myself apart, I would not have been writing this today and sharing with you the guide to survive this journey. :) I am kind of glad and also not so glad. :P
Anyways, trust me, it will get better. :)
Love,
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